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when I die…
when I die… Hopefully, it will not come anytime soon. I plan to see 100 years and beyond. But plans sometimes change. We’re not in control. when I die… Grieve. Take as long as you need to process the fact that I am no longer here. I will, however, always be close. I will be here in spirit. when I die… Do not let my loss weigh you down, but rather, celebrate our times together and let the memories lift your spirits. when I die… Be sad, angry, broken. Feel whatever happens to come up from within. But remember, you can also be...
Categories: Discussions on Death | Grieving | Life Lessons | Post-Traumatic Growth
Street Signs
Not everyone believes in signs. No, I’m not talking about those that tell us when to stop or where we can park. The signs I am referring to are those that come from “the other side,” the ones that come from our loved ones who have died but still somehow let us know...
Cultural Fair
The cultural fair gets me every time. Every few years it creeps up on me. The school project dedicated to exploring family trees and genealogy. Our school calls it the cultural fair. I call it my personal minefield chock full of memories and mixed emotions. When the...
Great Expectations
Easter 2016 did not go as planned. What started off to be a carefree morning of traditional Easter egg hunting and artful egg dyeing, instead quickly dissolved into a frantic Googling session. Researching facts on Dove Milk Chocolate became a top priority -- not to...
It Takes a Village
I believe we all have a village. Friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, classmate parents, and acquaintances. When we think about all the people in our lives, from the nearest and dearest to the familiar faces that surround us on a daily basis, we realize the extent...
What is Post-Traumatic Growth?
Have you ever heard of Post-Traumatic Growth? When I ask people the question: "Have you ever heard of Post-Traumatic Growth?" I typically receive either blank stares or quizzical looks. When I ask the same question about Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, I always...
The 5 Best Things Said to Me While Grieving
Here’s one we are constantly revising in our heads. We want to say something but often start overthinking it: What’s the best thing to say? How do I say it without stirring up sorrowful emotions? Should I say anything at all? While everyone experiences loss differently – these were the best 5 things said to me while grieving the loss of my husband.
The 5 Worst Things Said to Me While Grieving
Someone close to you has just lost a loved one. What should you say? Or rather…what shouldn’t you say. I know these 5 things were well-intended, but while in the thick of grief, they ended up having a rather negative effect on me. Here are the worst 5 things said to my while grieving the loss of my husband.
Back to the Future
What if I was told I could change one thing about my life without interfering with the future? Would I have canceled the date? Avoided getting involved with him? Ran? Would I have spared myself the devastating years of pain and grief that would most certainly come from these truths…or stay the course?
The Trepidatious Timing of Telling
Like the NASA protocol, letting family members know ahead of time what and when you would want to know can offer huge peace of mind. Talking about it and writing it down takes the guesswork out of these uncomfortable situations. This practice can also extend to many of the other unmentionable topics we all tend to avoid such as our final wishes and wills.